Caregiving for Your Elderly Mom from a Distance
Posted on March 22, 2017
in Family Caregivers
Caregiving from a distance means you can’t be there for your elderly mom
all the time. The National Institute on Aging defines a long distance caregiver as someone who lives an hour (or more) away from their patient. You’re ready to help Mom keep her senior independence while
showing her how much you care. Now that you no longer live close to Mom, Alert1 is here to help you find the daily care she needs.
Begin with the Basics
The first step is to identify the type of care needed. Plan a weekend visit to see Mom. This will give you enough time to
assess and gather information about the help that she will need. Make sure you:
- Create a list of items to discuss. Learning about and respecting
Mom’s wishes for care will nip arguments in the bud. Ask her if there’s
anything she’d like help with in her day-to-day life. Let her know of any
concerns that you have.
- Check in with the neighbors. As a senior, Mom might not be
able to see potential areas of danger in her daily routine. Step out for a walk
to get a different opinion. Mom’s neighbors will let you know about any
incidents that Mom forgot to mention.
- Connect with family and friends. Does your sister live closer to
Mom? Is your family friend right down the street? Establish a care connection
of people near Mom who can answer in any emergency.
- Craft care roles. Decide who will be doing what in
the caregiving support roles. Mom’s friend Ted will take her to get groceries,
and your sister will finance the caregiver. Let them know that you are there to
help support over the phone.
Research Care Options
you sit down to talk to Mom about extra care, know the different options
available. Give a list of your findings to Mom to look over. Be sure to
- The different types of care. Now that she’s elderly, Mom wants
to stay independent and age in place. Explain the difference between assisted living and an in-home caregiver
to avoid confusion.
- Doctor recommendations. Mom will be less wary of care
options that come approved by a doctor. Ask Mom’s doctor to provide
recommendations for extra care. If Mom is hesitant, arrange to meet with her
doctor to have the conversation in person.
- The costs of care. Be upfront about any costs that
Mom or your siblings will have to pay. Create a care budget, and review often.
Adjustments can be made as the care needs change.
- Testimonials from friends. Did Mom’s elderly friend Bethany
hire a caregiver? Let Mom know! Include any stories or advice from Mom’s senior
friends who’ve gone through the process.
Provide Long Distance Support
Being a long distance caregiver for Mom means you won’t be able to be there every day. But
that doesn’t mean you have to stop supporting her. To stay in touch with Mom and
- Set up weekly phone calls. Let Mom know that you’re always
going to call her on Thursday night at 7pm. She’ll look forward to speaking
with you. Plus, you’ll give her caregiver a short break.
- Save the caregiver’s phone
number. In case
of an emergency, you’ll want to have the caregiver’s number close at hand.
Arrange to have weekly check-in calls about Mom and how the process is going.
- Plan future visits. Decide how often you’re going to
visit Mom, and map out the dates for the next year. Always review how the
visits are going when you’re there. Be prepared to care for Mom while visiting,
to give the primary caregiver a break.
- Check in with Mom’s care network. Call Mom’s elderly friends to
stay in the know about Mom’s appetite. Review the financial statements with
your siblings. Don’t forget to thank everyone for their time and effort.
A Medical Alert Gives Peace of Mind
health aid comes three times a week to help out. But what about the other four
days when Mom doesn’t have someone else there? Give Mom Alert1’s PAX Plus
She will always stay safe from senior falls thanks to:
- Automatic fall detection. Mom used to be worried about
falls, but not anymore. If Mom falls and hits her head, the automatic fall
detection calls for help. The Command Center operators will make sure she gets
the help she needs.
- Showerproof pendant. Mom loves to take long showers.
The PAX Plus pendants are waterproof, keeping Mom safe in the tub.
- Complete customization. Mom likes to wear her jewelry
different ways. Her fall detection pendant slips around her neck or clips to
her waist out of the house. At home, her petite help button clasps on her wrist
or around her neck.
- Help all day, every day. Alert1’s Command Center is there
24/7 for Mom. We will stay on the line until help arrives. No matter the
emergency, Mom will get the care she needs.
Show Mom You Care
to be there for your elderly mom. That’s why you’re getting her the extra care
she needs. Let Mom know how much she means to you by continuing to support her
and her new care.
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